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Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify, utilize, comprehend, and manage emotions in positive and constructive ways. It's about recognizing how one's feelings and emotions are evaluated or controlled and being able to label others' emotional state. Emotional intelligence is also about engaging with others in ways that draw people to you.
Emotional intelligence consists of four core abilities:
•Self-awareness - To recognize our emotion and how it affects our thoughts and behavior, knowing our own strengths and weaknesses and having self-confidence.
•Self-management - To control spontaneous feelings and behaviors, managing emotions in healthy ways, taking initiative on commitment and adapt to changing circumstances.
•Social awareness - To understand the emotions, needs, and concerns of others, picking up on emotional cue, feels comfortable socially and recognizing the power dynamics in a group or organization.
•Relationship management - To develop and maintain good relationships, communicate clearly, motivate and influence others, working well in a team and managing conflicts.
Emotional intelligence is educated based on what we see, hear, and feel, but the development of it depends on sensory, nonverbal learning and real-life practice. Once we are overwhelmed by stress our brain overrides the rational parts, hijacking our best-laid plans, intentions, and strategy. We need to learn how to remain active and accessible even in time of stress. Being able to manage stress in the moment is the key to resilience. This helps to stay focus, and control what challenges encountered.
Reducing stress is recognizing what stress feels like. Many of us spend so much time in an unhinged state that we’ve forgotten what it feels like to be tranquil and relaxed. We need to identify our stress responses as everyone reacts differently to control stress. Become angry and agitated? Freeze with anxiety? The best way to reduce stress quickly is through the senses: sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch. Emotional awareness is the key to understanding oneself and others.
Most people have detached from their emotions especially strong core emotions such as anger, sadness, fear, and joy. We can deny or numb our feelings, but we can’t get rid of them. Unfortunately, without emotional awareness, we are unable to understand our motivation and needs or to communicate effectively with others. Nonverbal communication involves paying attention to eye contact, facial expression, tone of voice, posture and gesture, timing and pace.
Humor and laughter are natural antidotes to life difficulties which helps us lightens our burdens. Such as to view our frustrations and disappointments from new perspective; it also enables us to survive annoyance and setbacks. Simultaneously relaxing and energizing ourselves to relieve fatigue, which allows us to recharge and accomplish tasks well.
JAS :DDLabels: Emotional Intelligence
